A special guest post by Danielle LaPorte
noun: a person's essential being that distinguishes them from others, especially considered as the object of introspection or reflexive action.
When you consider the word Self, how does it make you feel?
On another note: what will you choose for your SELF?
Self-esteem, self-love, self-abnegation, self-blame, selfish, self-confidence, self-compassion, self-forgiveness
First of all, outside of morality and integrity, I want you to try and eliminate the word "selfish" from your vocabulary. Is it selfish to want love, compassion and forgiveness for yourself? I don't think so (despite what my ancestors might have told me).
Becoming mindful of what we choose for ourSELF is a great act of self-care. And when we take better care of ourselves, we can take better care of others.
Which SELF word will you choose?
With love + aloha,
noun. An act or course of action to which a person is morally or legally bound; a duty or commitment.
How does it make you feel when you consider the word obligation?
For me, the word obligation feels tight and constricted. I never like to use the word obligation when referring to something that I want to do.
Do you have an obligation to take care of yourself or your family, or do you desire to?
Do you have an obligation to show up for work each morning, or do you desire to?
Do you have an obligation to be the perfect wife or girlfriend or friend or daughter? Or do you really desire to show up as your best and be totally and completely accepted, with flaws and all?
See, there's a difference between feeling an obligation to be, do or have something and having the desire to choose it.
Considering the way you want to feel, which do you choose to move forward with?
Obligation or desire?